Changing Your Life from “Just Fine” to One You Enjoy Each Day

Changing Your Life from “Just Fine” to One You Enjoy Each Day

It’s easy in today’s society to get caught up with day to day problems. Before you know it, you’re just trying to keep your head above water, and you might come to realize—like me—that it is very little you are enjoying your life. Stress and work can make us forget to take time for ourselves, which ends up bringing us down in the long run.

There’s no exact formula for transforming our lives overnight—and even when we are living our dream life, it’s easy for stress and our various commitments to take center stage and bring us down. I’m sure this isn’t new information, but what we need is the balance. There are days where I want nothing more than to tear out my hair and scream because I’m stressed and overworked, so I give myself small goals to help make each day a bit better. Here is my formula:

Each time I do three things that I hate, I let myself stop and do one thing I enjoy as a reward. I like to finish the day doing something I love, for myself—reading a good book, playing Candy Crush, having dessert because I feel like it. During the day, give myself a strict system: I get through three projects (whether it is work, chores around the house, or sorting out a bank problem), and then I do something that I want—watching a half hour of TV, redecorating my house, scrolling Facebook, etc.

Do three things again, give me another break.
For me, it’s all about getting through the mundane parts of my day and then stopping what I’m doing to relax and take time for me. For some people, it might be going for a walk, going out for dinner, etc. It depends on what works for you. You can read my previous post to find out how we kick our normal routine and try something new to relax.

What I’ve found is that when I reward myself for getting three things done that I hate (or one really big thing), I’m more likely to enjoy my rewards that much more. Taking care of life maintenance or work first, and then doing something that I thoroughly enjoy makes me feel less stressed each day, I look forward to coming up with things that I want to do as a reward system, and I plan those events or the time for myself before I get started each morning. For every few hours or doing things I hate, I give myself time to get out of the house, phone friends, and family members, and to put aside the things that stress me out.

Often, we think that our lives need to change completely for us to be happy—this isn’t the case. Managing our time and making sure that even while we’re meeting our responsibilities we still take the time to improve ourselves or relax is the first step in making positive change.

Another way is to sit down and think of the person that we always wanted to be. Have you always wanted to be able to play the guitar or learn a new language? Then some of that personal time should be spent practicing a new skill or trying something new. If you want to be a good cook, try a new recipe each week—or buy ingredients at the store that you’ve never used, and see what you can make with them.

I would like to recommend you to read How To relax by Thich Nhat Hanh – one of the best-known authors that were nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize. When we are stressed, we are not only less happy but also less productive. Moreover, we will make those around us unhappy as well. The author shares methods that help us to bring our lives back into balance. This book is a series of short stories about resting, healing, and solitude that guide us how to release the stress. If we practice frequently,  we can achieve the calm in our mind, control the stress, be unbusy to relax no matter how the life turns around.

For a good life, we need to take time to reflect, and we need to continue to grow as individuals. Finding time for these activities and structuring them as rewards can boost our happiness each day and make us feel as though we are moving forward. We won’t always enjoy where we are at or what we have to do, but carving that time out each day is a way for us to become the person we want to be, and not get stuck in a rut.


Amy Nguyen

Amy Nguyen

I feel happy to share my experiences with you about Travel - Food - Life around the world. I hope to inspire you to Live-Love- Laugh :)



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